[XdsEnd2EndTest] Use Custom RPC Options for each test to reduce test …

…run times (grpc#37679)

Also, add status expectations for tests where we expect failures.

Closes grpc#37679

COPYBARA_INTEGRATE_REVIEW=grpc#37679 from yashykt:CustomRpcOptions 75272d5
PiperOrigin-RevId: 674042498

src/core/server/xds_server_config_fetcher.cc

@@ -677,8 +677,16 @@ void XdsServerConfigFetcher::ListenerWatcher::
     // It should get cleaned up eventually. Ignore this update.
     return;
   }
+  bool first_good_update = filter_chain_match_manager_ == nullptr;
+  // Promote the pending FilterChainMatchManager
+  filter_chain_match_manager_ = std::move(pending_filter_chain_match_manager_);
+  // TODO(yashykt): Right now, the server_config_watcher_ does not invoke
+  // XdsServerConfigFetcher while holding a lock, but that might change in the
+  // future in which case we would want to execute this update outside the
+  // critical region through a WorkSerializer similar to XdsClient.
+  server_config_watcher_->UpdateConnectionManager(filter_chain_match_manager_);
   // Let the logger know about the update if there was no previous good update.
-  if (filter_chain_match_manager_ == nullptr) {
+  if (first_good_update) {
     if (serving_status_notifier_.on_serving_status_update != nullptr) {
       serving_status_notifier_.on_serving_status_update(
           serving_status_notifier_.user_data, listening_address_.c_str(),
@@ -688,13 +696,6 @@ void XdsServerConfigFetcher::ListenerWatcher::
                 << listening_address_;
     }
   }
-  // Promote the pending FilterChainMatchManager
-  filter_chain_match_manager_ = std::move(pending_filter_chain_match_manager_);
-  // TODO(yashykt): Right now, the server_config_watcher_ does not invoke
-  // XdsServerConfigFetcher while holding a lock, but that might change in the
-  // future in which case we would want to execute this update outside the
-  // critical region through a WorkSerializer similar to XdsClient.
-  server_config_watcher_->UpdateConnectionManager(filter_chain_match_manager_);
 }
 
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